Grief is the natural response to the death of a loved one, but “natural” does not mean the process will be easy. However, in the midst of the turmoil and sadness in your life right now, you do have at least one thing going for you that can ease your way.

And that “one thing” is; you are in control of your unique grief process.

During your loved ones death and/or at the time of their death you had no control of the situation. You probably wished you could halt a disease process or find the cure. You may have wished you could have prevented your loved one from leaving home that day or taking that particular route to their destination. The reality was, though, other forces were in place that were beyond your control. You probably felt weak and powerless.

Now, as you are grieving, you are back in control and can influence an outcome for yourself. You can take a drive in the country because you want to see the beauty of wildflowers in bloom. You can accept or decline an invitation from a friend for dinner. You can decide to watch a comedy movie because you want to laugh or a sad movie because you need to cry.

The control you have in your journey of grief is both a gift and a responsibility. The gift is that you can begin to feel your power and strength again. The responsibility is to accept your feelings and fears and face them bravely. When you consciously face your feelings of grief, you do so not only for yourself but also for the people you love who are still alive with you.

Although Loving Farewells and others can help and support you during this difficult and painful time, you are the only one who can take the steps to survive and go on thriving in your life in a healthy and positive way.

I congratulate you for your bravery in being here right now reading these words. You are taking an important step in your healing. I hope you recognize this and can acknowledge your courage and strength.

You are on your way. You will do well.

Sincerely sending you Peace & Love,

Tricia