A big worry for some grievers can be summarized in the questions “who am I without my loved one”, “what will my life be like without my loved one” and “how will I change now that my loved one has died”? It’s possible that any one person’s answers to these questions will change a time or two during grief.

As your grief process progresses your thinking will become more clear & refined and you may find yourself changing your mind often. This is one of the reasons it isn’t necessarily a good idea to make big decisions or big changes during grief. Grief is, however, a great time and space to research and consider possibilities.

Right now may or may not be the best time for you to research or consider future possibilities. Currently you may need absolutely all of your energy to survive one day at a time. If so, reserve your energy for living now. You can return here when you are more ready to approach your future.

The Internet is a marvelous resource for researching and considering all sorts of possibilities for your future. So many wonderful & knowledgeable people communicate with one another via the Internet to share what works in their lives, what they have learned to improve their own life and how the lives of others might become better. Specifically, there is a group of blog/site owners whose mission is to share and help other people in the area of personal development. A list of these blogs and sites relative to personal growth has been compiled for you.

The Personal Development List may have some important information and ideas for you. As you look over this very long list, let yourself be drawn to particular entries. You may be attracted to an entry because it uses words you understand or your intuition may lead you to click on a site/blog describing a concept totally new to you. Open your mind and heart to spend a few minutes or a few hours considering possibilities.

Sincerely sending you Peace, Love & Creativity,

Tricia

We all have times in our lives when we do or say something we consider unforgivable. At those times we probably are filled with guilt and regret. When we become uncomfortable enough we most likely go to the person, apologize and ask for forgiveness.

Also, we all have times in our lives when we deem the actions and words of others as unforgivable. As you mourn the loss of your loved one, you can feel especially vulnerable and your emotions can be fragile. During grief many things might happen to upset you, hurt your feelings and make you angry. Some of these things are seemingly impossible to forgive.

When you are unforgiving of another you may think you are getting back at or hurting that person as they have hurt you. You may hope to feel better because, at least, you think you have balanced the situation. The truth is, though, you are only harming yourself by choosing to be unforgiving. As you harbor resentment, revenge or anger you have less light and color around you. Your natural sparkle and shine are dimmed.

Forgiveness is a necessary part in the process of grieving your loved one. When you are ready, you will want to forgive the person/s who hurt you. You owe it to yourself and, especially now as you are grieving, you deserve and need the relief.

Do you remember the relief you felt when you were forgiven? The relief you will feel when you forgive will be at least that much and probably more. You’ll have your light and color back.

Everyone has experience with the challenge of forgiving and, for many of us, the act of forgiving is not easy. We may need help.

With Forgiveness is a wonderful place on the Internet devoted to helping all of us forgive more easily. The site is owned by two professional women, Sheri and Susyn, who provide specific techniques and practices to help people learn forgiveness. A newsletter, emails and teleclasses are also offered.

Through this forgiveness site almost eight thousand people all over the world have been assisted to:

* Move past pain, hurt and internal suffering,
* Recognize your divine nature,
* Develop greater respect for those different from you,
* Transcend selfishness and embrace generosity,
* Change the way you envision yourself and
* Cultivate a deep sense of self-love, self-esteem and self-respect.

Take action in caring for yourself by taking the time to visit this jewel of the Internet. Take action in caring for YOU by forgiving yourself.

Sincerely sending you Peace, Love & Creativity,

Tricia